and we went one a few dates and now hes inviting me over to his house. im obviously not going to have sex with him, and i even told him that i want to wait til im in love and he thought that was a good idea(: hes kind of shy around me, and so am i. WE ARE TEENAGES by the way. i want to go over his house(his parents will be gone, so just us and his younger brother) but i dont want to go w/ him thinking we will hook up......i just want to have fun(: like go in the pool and get to know him even more
10 points............how do i do this......and how do i make sure he knows i want a relationshipHow to not come off as a 'one night stand/hook up' type of girl?This is all for a "hookup" no matter what he says it is. Just don't fall for it unless you really want to get done. You might even call it rape afterwards, but that doesn't matter when you play yourself into it. You said no, now stick to it. If that means he isn't going to date you any more, so what. He will find someone who is easy and you can go about your business. It isn't obvious you aren't going to have sex with him until you just don't put yourself in the situation where sex could take place.
If you want a relationship, sex is coming into it sooner or later. Biology hasn't changed in a million years.How to not come off as a 'one night stand/hook up' type of girl?I feel like you should just relax. Don't worry about him thinking that you just want sex unless you have reason to believe that that's what he thinks. Go to his house, hang out and don't stress. You've already told him that you want to wait until you're in love and if he thought that was a good idea, then it sounds like he agrees with your perspective and won't expect you to have sex with him. If you feel like you're in a situation with him where you're going too fast or you think that he misinterpreted your intentions, just explain it to him. You can tell him then that you're looking for more of a relationship and you're not ready to have sex with him. If it's someone that you're going to possibly want to be in a relationship with, then you should be able to explain to him that you are looking for a relationship and not just to hook up and if he's someone worth staying with, he'll understand and won't pressure you to do anything. Until then though, you don't have to assume that he thinks you just wanna hook up unless he's given you a reason to think that.
Hope this helps!How to not come off as a 'one night stand/hook up' type of girl?This is a good question, haha. Well, I guess the best thing to do is be very clear about what you want, which it seems you have. I know though, sometimes guys can be very ignorant and oblivious. Make sure you don't lead him on to "doing things" with you. Make suggestions on things you guys can actually do. Like, swim, play games, uhh I don't know, be creative. hahaha. if you feel like he might be leading up to doing something you're not ready to do, then ask him to play a card game with his younger brother or something. You said you've made out with him. Are you wanting to make out at his house? To make sure he knows you guys aren't just going to hook up you guys need to actually do something fun, like don't just sit around and watch a movie, or make out (obviously). I think it might be too soon to actually start talking to him about being in a relationship, but once you feel the time is right just tell him you're looking for a relationship, not just someone to hook up with. I hope this helped, and good luck with your date!
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