How to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?

I was wondering if someone could give me advise on what i can do to help get over this guy. I know he's a total jerk and i'd never actually want to be with him but for some reason, my logic disappears and for the last couple of months i've been feeling empty, and depressed and somehow cant stop having continual thoughts about him - even though i KNOW what he did to me has made it so he would never deserve me and i should never talk to him again.



Here's the story. We met, started hanging out a lot and having awesome times. Our personalities were a perfect match and it was obvious we both really liked each other. I knew he had a lot of his own personal issues, but i overlooked that because that was something he had to work out on his own and that didnt concern me. And when we were together everything was always amazing. He was full of a lot more (negative) life experiences, though. He took my virginity (knowingly) and we continued to see each other for many months. We even met each other's families (upon HIS request, not mine!)



He would sometimes get weird though, and not call me for a few days and just start acting kind-of weird every once in a while when we were together. But then we'd always have so much fun together that it would immediately go back to normal. I thought something was up when he also didnt discuss our relationship or making it official, when all the signs that he wanted to were there, such as meeting the family.



Finally one night he told me he had a girlfriend. Of two years. That LIVED with him. He was very manipulative, by the way, I had even been in their bedroom and wasnt aware that two people lived there. In their BED even! He then proceeded to say that they'd been having problems for a while and were about to break up and that he loved me.



Essentially he strung it on even longer, where we would always have these ups and downs. He even moved out but then eventually moved back in with her after it was clear that he and I were over. The weird part is i know he still loves me (explaining how would take way too long but he does) but he can't be with me because he is literally unhappily stuck with her (this is also a very complicate situation, but he is stuck with her).



Anyway, I KNOW he's a jerk and i'd never want to be with him but he was my first. And despite everything he put me through a part of me still cares about him. I thought we could be just friends and that would be fine but he has made it clear that it's too hard for him to do that. Does anyone have any ideas on ways to help myself get over him. I have actually already moved about two hours away and we dont talk (besides the occasional drunk call or text) but i just constantly find myself being depressed and empty inside.



Advise? Thanks. :)How to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?Thats horrible.

Find someone new, you deserve better.How to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?
ALCOHOL, AND PARTY'SHow to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?THIS MIGHT SOUND NASTY, BUT TRUST ME IT WORKS! NEXT TIME HE CALLS START ACTING LIKE YOUR GETTING SOME GOOD HEAD OR BEING BANGED REAL GOOD. START MOANING AND CALLING OUT A NAME AND BE LIKE YEA GET IT DADDY. WHEN HE TEXTS YOU, SAY IM BUSY GETTING MY D*CK! girl i know it might be a little too much, but it works all the time. he will get ticked! my friend did that!!! girl! he got so mad and cursed her out and called her back and started kissing her *** and he is trying to get her pregnant!!! THATS SOME BULLSHIT! HONEY HE DONT HAVE A GF THAT LIVES WITH HIM AND THEY BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2YEARS! HIS FAMILY MEMBERS WOULD OF SAID SOMETHING..... TRUST ME. HE LIED...... DONT GET BACK WITH HIM, BECAUSE HE IS LOW TO THE EARTH SCUM BAGHow to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?
find a BETTER guy.. plz don't get drunk to often =[ lolHow to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?that guy should get killedHow to get over your first love - the one who took your virginity, and f***ed you over?
Hey girl..sord of going through the same thing. I had a summer fling, he was the first guy I ever got intimate with, ahh we were so romantic. I never had sex with him though, thank god because then It would make the situation more difficult. But still, he was my first for walking along the beach, cuddling kissing etc. We live in different states. Here's the thing, Im still not over him. We kept talking to each other and then he stopped. out of the blue. So now what do i do, I can either choose to dwell on him and the memories we shared or move on with my life and be happy! This is what I realized, the feelings that I got from him I can always get from someone else! I dont think I miss him that much, but i miss the feeling I got when i was with him. On his facebook, his status is that he's miserable. Well, maybe he shouldnt have stopped talking to me. Mine flirted with a lot of girls too! Girl, we had romance but they were *** holes. Starting college has opened my eyes, guys are after me. They will be coming for you too!! haha..their lives are depressing and they have a lot of insecurities. Your guy and mine ( well him and I were never bf/gf) are very similar, they both have many issues, both play games. They are both heartbreakers and we dwell on them for what? In 3 months from now, your mind will be off it. Think about the problems you had a year ago, you dont think about it now do you, nope. We look back and laugh and think wow what a waste. So lets be strong together, and find the hot good looking guys who will treat us the way we should be treated!
I have the same exact problem except i myself need advice too, umm this guy i have been knowing for about 2 years was my first and i totally regret it and i think about him constantly, but when i tell him i want to date and have sex with other people he gets really pissed and upset, i get scared because I'm afraid of what he might do to me or the guy I'm dating and i don't date because of this, its not an abusive type relationship but it feels like if i continue to be involved with him it might escalate to that, i cant leave him alone because I'm so in love with him no matter what he does, he's hurt me so many times but i still love him regardless, i just cant keep doing this to myself and i cry at night because i want this to all go away, but it never will, and i know he loves me too, but sometimes i think he hates me all the same, i cant figure this out, please somebody help me, but to answer this question: don't be like me, just move on and it will get better for you in the long run, take care of yourself though.