My wife had a one night stand?

My wife and I have had a long distance marriage for sometime and she had been telling that she has been feeling very lonely off late.As a person she needs regular sex and I think its the lack of this which has led her to cheat on our marriage.I feel so coz I saw a pack of condomns in our house which do not belong to me.On asking her she confessed that she had sex but,she isnt having an affair.It was a one night stand coz she was too lonely and could not resist the temptation.She said that she tried all possible sex toys but it did not work.She is convincing me that these rules of marriage are society created and as long as she is not into a full-fledged affair she is not cheating on me.Just that she as a person finds the urge for regular sex and finds it difficult to resisit if she doesnt get it for sometime.She is very loving and a very caring person otherwise.I am really not sure what should i do?My wife had a one night stand?it is cheating!



But the more important question is what do you want?



do you want a faithful wife

or

an unfaithful wife?



having sex with another person whether it be once or more is cheating. Being faithful means you save your body only for your spouse.My wife had a one night stand?
Well, what's good for the goose is good for the gander so don't feel bad if you need regular sex too. To keep from these one night stands becoming affairs, I would use only prostitutes (yes, there are men ones).My wife had a one night stand?This is not OK and her manipulating you is not OK either. You really need to talk to her about the situation. Do her bending in marriage rules apply to you as well? is she OK with you having a one night stand? I'm sure it is not exactly easy for you to go without sex.
I have just one coment, STD. In todays society how long can you tempt fate before your wife and/ or you end up with one. It's a gamble but if this is what she wants then I would recomend letting her go, before you come home to something that you would rather not touchMy wife had a one night stand?Cheating is cheating, one nighters or affairs. your wife is trying to justify what she did. If you can live with this idealogy of your wifes, then forgive her and move on, just know that when you are out of town again, she "wont be cheating on you" cuz after all, its only a one night stand. And when you have sex with, make sure you use those packages of condoms.My wife had a one night stand?
Maybe you ned to just do something about the long distance marriage? Then there would be no need for this.
dump her dude....thats the best answer u cn get from meMy wife had a one night stand?
gezzzz she is very shallow girl. can't she not hold her urge for sex. i dont think that this is really valid reason, if your not maniac or have psychological problem, you can think more reasonable reasons.... whoaaa this is impossible. i dont know, sorry if i am not helping you. Is she can't do more productive thing other than thinking of sex??? why can she not make herself busy to work, clean the house, or go and do shopping. She had sex onetime while your away, im sure she can do it over and over again. i am sure of that. Maybe she needs to see a psychiatrist. good luck.
What i think is you are married there's no excuse for cheating, one night stand or not!!!!!!!! She's just gonna cheat on you again b/c what about next time ur not there!!!!! I wouldn't take it!!
if you are unsure as of what to do...then, its quite possible that you actually understand her because youve done the same to her? just an assumption



be honest about yourself and discuss your feelings honestly with her and decide if her actions are the result of her wanting out of your relationship or actually what she described. infidelity ...some draw the line with no exceptions

one might make preparations to move forward and work thru it or to break off the relationship.

good luck
um thats not a marriage in my opinion. if she loved you she shoudl resist the temptation, or it might be different if she made a mistake and admits and doesnt let it happen again...but if she is havin casual sex just because "she needs to" and your not cool with that, you need to let her know, get some councling, or leave her because do you really want to share her? probably not, get tested too, never know if she used protection EVERY time!
Don't fall for that manipulative crap. There are thousands of military wives that go 18 months or more without sex while their husbands are overseas. Your wife doesn't want to be in a monogamous relationship. She's trying to have all the benefits of marriage and being single at once! Bring the hammer down.
nothing, deal with the fact that she was honest and open. she gave you an opportunity and you didn't take it... she said she felt lonely. why do you have a long distance relationship well, marriage ??? married people are supposed to be together under one roof not, seperate because then you would be considered "single". time for you to pack up and move back home. it's hard to believe that you as a man have been with no one through your far away living arrangements. things happen and there's no one to blame at all really. we women just the same as men have our needs also.

look at her for the qualities she possesses and not one incident that u urself could've committed also. wives forgive cheating husbands all the time and still hang on to the marriage and make it work. why can't a husband do the same ?



my parents are also living in totally differnt parts of the world and constantly travel to see eachother. my mom's plans are to move with him but, hasn't done so. i don't understand being married myself this entire living arrangement thing. my hubby and i talk about it all the time and we would never be able to be apart like this.

i know my dad had cheated. don't really think nor believe my mom has nor even would because of the type of person she is. but, if she did i couldn't blame her nor do i blame my dad for cheating. they are apart and that's just what happens unfortunately.
I'm sorry but she is full of it my husband i spend long periods of time apart he is in the military and well you know how that goes anyways i have never cheated on him or even think of doing it. if you love somebody you wouldn't do that especially when you are committed to the relationship you can do better find yourself a woman who truly loves you and respects the whole definition of marriage good luck and don't stay with her.
sorry, thats no excuse, if she cared she would not do it. we all have needs but we must use self control. i take it you have remained faithfull?

i would imagine if she sees it as not cheating it will happen again.

move on and start again before she hurts you again
The fact that she told you to even begin with is a wonderful thing. She had been crying out to you that she was lonely. She was not beating around the bush about it trying to make you figure it all out. She openly told you she was lonely. Now I know first hand that some of life's situations do not call for us to be able to just up and leave and go home. You could be someone who is on the road so many weeks or months out of the year with your job, or someone who drives a truck doing long hauls for weeks at a time. Whatever the situation is, you were not there. Does that justify her sleeping with someone else? No. If your sexual desire is so much so that sex toys don't work, watching some porn, etc etc... doesn't work, then your sexual desire is more than your love for your spouse. That is the bottom line.



When a husband or a wife truly loves the person they are with, then that love overcomes every single temptation and sexual desire that we may have. There are many warning signs that come before the actual act of sex, like for example, kissing, fondeling, etc etc... How during that time can you not know or realize that it is wrong? You have sex because you WANT to, not because the temptation was too much. That is what the sex toys are for. And how did she meet up with a man to begin with for the temptation to even be there? She was well aware of what she was doing, and she was even more aware of the final decision she made to sleep with this man.



She may be able to say at this point that she had a one night stand to get rid of her sexual frustrations, but if you are in a long distance marriage and she stays lonely, then I foresee this becoming an affair over time. If it can happen so easily for her once, then the 2nd and 3rd time will happen even more easily.
I am a very sexual person as well. I need sex on a regular basis. I've been married for 6 years and there is no long distance relationship that would make me want anyone other than my husband...ever! It is cheating...she wanted someone other than you. You have to decide whether or not you can live with the fact that she shared her passion with another man. I feel for you.