Understanding married women and one night stands?

My wife had a one-night stand. She was drunk at the time. We are working through it. One comment I have received is that a normal woman who is happy and loves her husband would never allow another man to sleep with her no matter the circumstances. Is this true? Do women want to do these things naturally just like men do but choose not to for various reasons? Or normally would a married woman avoid doing this sort of thing out of a lack of interest, but then did so because she has problems with her husband? In other words, I need to know if she is a happy woman who did something stupid or used bad judgment, or did she only do this out of complete unhappiness or an absence of something important. Advice and opinions please.Understanding married women and one night stands?The only woman you need to understand is yours as we are all different.



Personally, I love my husband and I would never cheat. Then again, I haven't been drunk in 20 years. Even back when I was, there is no such thing as THAT drunk IMO. By that I mean so drunk all your values and morals just go out the window.



As for female friends, I only have one that actually cheated for purely the sex. Most cheated because they said something was missing in their marriages and it wasn't sex, it was affection.



I can understand that, but it doesn't justify it. Just the other evening my husband and I went out to eat and he got the door for me and put his hand in the small of my back as we walked in. Such a TINY thing but it meant so much;love, tenderness, protectiveness, respect allin that little touch. I'd really miss that if it were gone. I also get all bent out of shape when we are standing face-to face just talking and he gently brushes the hair out of my face...so tenderness I guess it what I am saying it would be hard to do without. You don't get those things in a one night stand but I think some women mistakenly think you can or that it is some substitute for the real thing.



Women also hate to feel they are taken fro granted. A few of them have said a one night stand was to make them feel wanted/ desired or beautiful again. I sort of get that, but they are all attractive and intelligent women and I am sure they get flirted with the same as I often do, and sure, it's nice to know you are married and not dead. LOL but a reason to cheat? No, can't think of any way I would ever do that.



I am a firm believer that if you ever loved someone enough to marry them, you surely like them enough to be honest if you (for whatever reason) no longer love them enough to remain faithful.



It's not just about the emotional betrayal, it's pretty black and white in my mind- STDs/ HIV are real and you are literally playing with your own life and that of the person you promised to love, honor, etc.Understanding married women and one night stands?
It may not be that she has a problem with you. Cheaters cheat because of something inside of them. It is how they reacted to a situation. The fault lies completely within them. She may have been feeling unattractive for some reason and used the one night stand to boost her ego. Whatever the reason, it was her doing and the fault lies completely with her. Drunk or not, she made the decision.



It is sickening how much bad behavior we allow to go on simply because someone said they were drunk at the time.Understanding married women and one night stands?There are always underlying factors to reasons why women do stuff like this. It could very well be she wasn't happy or felt fulfilled at the time. After sleeping with this guy %26amp; more than likely the sex was really bad, she probably decided that she appreciates what she has at home. I have to give you kudos for working this out with your wife. I just hope she got herself test for HIV even if he wore protection. Condoms do tear.
Maybe if she has a really high sex drive (like a nymphomaniac) she would have sex just if the opportunity presented itself, but otherwise I would say that something is missing from the relationship. Maybe she craves more excitement or romance. Also, being drunk doesn't make it better. Even if you're drunk, you still know what you're doing and make choices. You can't walk very well, but you can still think.Understanding married women and one night stands?Your wife did this because she was drunk. It' very simple: women who go out and get drunk are easily seduced. Any woman, married or single, can have a one-night stand when she's drunk. The question is: why does your wife go out and get drunk? This is what you need to find out.Understanding married women and one night stands?
Get over it, people arent naturally monogameous. If you are looking for that, you should find someone who doesnt drink especially. Some women drink too much and dont remember what they did at all, its possible she has no idea how it happened.
some do it because they are bored

some do it looking for adventure

some would do it no matter how perfect their life was

don't know your wife but to me trust is more important than loveUnderstanding married women and one night stands?
You'll never know

If you can forgive her, forgive her. If not then move on.
i only read one sentence. so basically you are saying you married a drunk whore?
people make mistakes...alcohol makes these mistakes worse sometimes. If I were you I would ask her to please not drink when she is around other men for a while so that she does not make anymore stupid decisions. If she loves you and really feels bad she probably would not want to drink anymore anyway. If you feel like your relationship is worth saving then you have to forgive her. You have to stop bringing it up and let her know that it will take a while to earn your trust back. If she is a good woman then she will work hard to establish the trust in your relationship. If she acts like she didnt do anything wrong and keeps putting herself in situations where she could mess up again, then it might serve you right to let her go.
Unless her vows meant nothing, 'happy' women do not have affairs. If she were honest and open with you, I can imagine she is not really happy...but in fact has a deep need that is not being met.



I am sorry for the pain you must be feeling. If you choose to forgive her, you will need to choose to forgive her for the rest of your life, because that is how many times you will relive that image in your mind.



If you want it to work, and if she really wants it to work, you are going to need to either sit down and have a hard listen to her... no arguing, no exceptions. It seems odd that you have to do the listening when she is the one that has gone through the betrayal... but she didn't accidentally have a drunken one night stand because I know plenty of women who have been drunk and didn't offer their body one time.. it is a symptom, not a cause.
Normal women who are very happily married and love their husbands dearly can still be tempted and make really stupid mistakes. Especially while drunk. Man or woman sometimes our hormones get the better of us and cause us to do really stupid things.



I've never had sex with anyone else but my husband but I've come close. It could have happened if outside forces hadn't stopped me before it did. Also my husband actually did have a one night stand with another woman quite a long time ago. He really, really regretted it and has never done anything like that again.



We all make mistakes, forgive her for hers so you can earn the good karma and be deserving of her forgiveness oneday when you make your own mistake.