Which man is best: One that is a Mess but you love him -or- A man that's more settled and loves YOU more?? ?

Help. I am 25 and I cant decide which man to be with. I've been dating a man Ultra long distance (Canada) for the last 3 years. We would of married long ago but crazy circumstances would always come up-- his crazy unreliable ex wife, him having a relapse, money issues, and me being afraid of raising 3 boys (his).



But despite all this we remained together until the beginning of the year. He called me after I spent 2 days FLYING home, (wtf), to tell me he was going back to his ex wife. He said he wanted to put his family back together and that he wanted it to be the way it used to be when he was Happy. I was Floored we just spent the holidays together and it was perfect, or so I thought!



So We split for 3 months with very little contact. Although he would call ME Constantly.



I was feed up. I needed to move on, so I started to date a friend. He was such a breath of fresh air Completely different from the wishywashy ****** in Canada. I started to get on with my life and fall for the new guy here stateside. My ex even started to call less often. UNTIL one night I called him (drunk), and left him a message saying I still loved him. Yikes!



I guess it didn't work out between him and his ex wife, because he started to persue me again, and I mean HARD. He flew me to California and wined and dined me. Then to Canada to do the same. I flew back and forth between here and Canada. I tried not to take him too seriously because of our history. But before you know it he proposes to me Again. And my Silly *** said yes AGAIN.



So now I'm engaged to Mr. Canada. I fly back home and continue to see the lovely man that has made life for me so much easier. He's much older (17 years) than I am, but a very Loving, Caring and Compassionate MAN. I mean the complete opposite from Canada. So I stay stateside for almost a couple of months and before you know it my Boyfriend here decides to Propose to me too. He gave me the most beautiful ring I've ever seen. I didn't have the heart to tell him I was re-engaged to my ex =(.



Now to top it all off my Boyfriend here is relocating to Texas because of his job. I'm supposed to move with him and we are to marry in a year. But Canada is expecting me to move there and marry him also...



I'm gaga for Mr. Canada but tired of being hurt. But I believe I could have a long lasting healthy relationship with my fiance here.



I can't decide, I can't sleep and I don't what to do. Help I Need to figure this out. We're supposed to move Texas in two Days!!!Which man is best: One that is a Mess but you love him -or- A man that's more settled and loves YOU more?? ?Ok... Break it off with the guy thats left you and hurt you.

He left you once, he could do it again.

The new guy has treated you so much better

and you believe that you can last longer with him.



Think first though about who you love.

If you love that guy more or the other guy.

Its up too you.



Btw. you should have stopped talking with your ex going back and forth when you were with you fiance in the states. Does your fiance know that you and your ex kept in touch???