Married women and one night stands?

My wife had a one-night stand. She was drunk at the time. We are working through it. One comment I have received is that a normal woman who is happy and loves her husband would never allow another man to sleep with her no matter the circumstances. Is this true? Do women want to do these things naturally just like men do but choose not to for various reasons? Or normally would a married woman avoid doing this sort of thing out of a lack of interest, but then did so because she has problems with her husband? In other words, I need to know if she is a happy woman who did something stupid or used bad judgment, or did she only do this out of complete unhappiness or an absence of something important. Advice and opinions please.Married women and one night stands?Agree with the first answerer completely.

However, in my opinion only, as a married woman, here are my answers:

To your first statement: I would say that that comment is true.

To your second question elaborating on your first statement: Yes, women, like men, can have thoughts about another man or men, while married. That is natural, normal and acceptable for most everyone. We are married but not dead. The key is not to act on those thoughts in any way -- whether physically or emotionally with that other person we may be thinking about.

To your third question: I refer to my first answer.

To your final question: This could possibly have been a case a "bad judgment," as you are calling it, as you say she was drunk. However, again, my opinion only, why did she ALLOW herself to be put in that situation in the first place with a member of the opposite sex, without you knowing about it??

I guess what I am trying to say here is that there is a chance she is not happy in her marriage with you for whatever reason, which is why you both need to get to marriage counseling asap to figure out what is going on with your relationship and her specifically.

All the best and good luck with the future of your marriage.Married women and one night stands?
Is this true? Yes it is - to an extent, people cheat because something is lacking in their marriage (that doesnt mean they dont love their partner).

Do women want to do these things naturall just like men? Yes, we are all attracted to other members of the opposite sex.

Did she do so because she has problems with her husband? Probably.

ADD @ David N, by your logic, drunk drivers are not responsible if they run someone over. You are just as responsible for your actions while drunk as while sober - unless someone forced the alcohol down your throat against your will.Married women and one night stands?Your trying desperately to find an "excuse" to help in this....ain't gonna happen. One night stands is cheating PERIOD. Trust is gone now. A good healthy relationship needs trust to bind it together.



I say you and her are on the outs. But it's really up to you isn't it?
It could be anything, did she tell you on her own? or you found out some how? it all depends, my gf never cheated on me because 1. she knows the consequence. and 2. she doesnt need to, i give her all the sex and love in the world.Married women and one night stands?Get counseling. If she was drunk that would be enough to explain her dumb behavior. Doing stupid things while drunk is pretty universal.



Having sex with someone who is drunk is rape. Someone who is drunk is not able to give consent.Married women and one night stands?
i think married women tend to cheat becos they are not happy within the marriage. when a woman cheats, its usually not about sexual gratification but something deeper in the emotional psyche.
Being drunk is called an excuse and the beauty is, you bought it.



Now she'll get drunk and have sex a lot more often.



And not with you.Married women and one night stands?
Your marriage is indeed over,work on getting u life back on track rather than dweling on what happened.
I agree with the first answer, but will add that you both need counseling to work through this.
She is missing something in her life.
forget counselling, she does not love you, she would not have slept around if she did.
You need counseling.
when i was single, i would specifically target married women out on a "girls night out" with her friends. Her friends will always egg her on to get some "strange". The alcohol excuse is BS. She knew what she was doing. It`s easier to lie to yourself and say it wasn't your fault if you can blame the alcohol.



Keep her away from "the girls". Her friends, co-workers, sisters, whatever. They are the ones who put this in her mind and told her it was ok because she "deserved to have fun" or she should "get you back for............ whatever" women are spiteful, jealous and vindictive toward each other and will gladly ruin a relationship while pretending to be a friend.



As for why she did it. He made her feel desired. Woman (any woman and every woman) have a self esteem deficiency. They always feel ugly, fat, undesirable, etc etc etc. When a stranger shows her attention, it will be a quick ego boost. She slept with him for the self esteem it gave her, not the sex.
Women are not all the same just like all men are not the same. In my opinion, a woman who gives in to a man sexually, is either a whorish type in the first place, the kind who seeks attention from men or she is just naive and stupid.

In most cases she was the whorish type in the first place. Even the smartest men can't detect the most loose of women. Women who flatter men a lot with compliments and loves to get into a guys face is likely to cheat.

Or she could've been taken advantage of because she was drunk, but not in most cases. She knows whats wrong, even if she was drunk.
Believe me, there was nothing that you did wrong, it was not because of a problem in the marriage, it was due to her low moral standard.