I lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?

I was the typical "good girl" who was a virgin. I was 19 and waiting for THE one for sex. I wouldnt kiss on first dates or anything. After dating a guy i'd make him wait at least a couple weeks before letting him kiss me. I was smart and didnt want a guy to disrespect me or use me for anything. I turned down many guys and had no problem doing so.



Anyways I was dating a guy for about 8 months. I wasnt ever in love with him I just stayed with him because I thought someday id fall in love with him and I felt sorta safe being with him. I was pretty much just his "trophy girlfriend". He treated me like his daughter and being with him felt like i was on a permanent interview for some big job. He watched everything I did and if i didnt act perfect 24/7 he'd point out my mistakes. He wanted me to act, look, and be this perfect GF 24/7. Just say id trip in public instead of asking if i was alright he'd get mad at me.



I lost myself while trying to be his perfect girl. He wouldnt give me the attention i needed physcialy or emotionally. I just would basically be there when he needed me to dress up and sit next to him and be quite and smile and look good. I stuck with him because all my friends and family saw him as this perfect guy and he had his life all set up and was going to be a doctor so i felt safe since he told me we'd be together for ever and told me I was THE one.



Anways he randomly broke up with me and i felt so lost and alone. 3 days after we broke up i met this guy and he invited me to his friends party. I ended up loosing my virginity to him that night. I guess because he was saying all the right things and giving me the attention i needed i just wasnt thinking.



Anyways now when i see this guy i cant even believe i did what i did. I look at him and cant see how i ever felt comfortable enough to do what i did with him. I feels like as though someone else was in my body for that night or something.



I dated this guy, Mark a LONG time ago. He always liked the fact that i was a virgin. He deffinaly wasnt a virgin though. Im just wondering if I told a guy like a new boyfriend or something that im not a virgin, but i did only have sex once when i obviously wasnt thinking would they look at me differently?



Like will me having sex once make guys look at me differently?

Because i still feel like a virgin emotionally its just physically im not.

Thanks!I lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?Yes indeed you aren鈥檛 a virgin anymore. I am a female, but I can answer this question for you. Your ex was very manipulative %26amp; scandalous, but it was your choice to stay with him despite the crude facts. You acted like his perfect gf and then in a way he broke your heart. Because you felt used %26amp; hurt; the next chance you got you seemed to compromise your morals %26amp; you flowed with the temptation that came your way. The truth was that you were very vulnerable %26amp; the guy you had sex with got you at the *perfect* time. I am sorry it had to happen that way but you shouldn鈥檛 have forgotten to stay TRUE to yourself. The situation is one to regret. But you how to remember that you are human %26amp; that you were jaded, so it happened unfortunately. Ultimately you need to forgive yourself, and vow to never do anything like that again until you are ready.



If you are with a guy in the future, just tell him the truth of what happened. But honestly you are not a virgin anymore, sorry but that was the decision you made %26amp; honestly you must face the facts. If you are a beautiful person, and not a person who has casual sex with anyone than the guy will understand. If he doesn鈥檛 understand then that is his own loss, but you have to make sure to live life with no regrets. Keep your head up %26amp; remember guys are jerks. But if you wait, you will find that right guy. Feeling ashamed is apart of regretting what happened, but you have to move on with life. Just be strong %26amp; don鈥檛 EVER have sex again until you are mentally, physically %26amp; emotionally ready!!! My suggestion is wait until marriage to have sex!! Good Luck ;-DI lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?
okay sooo your not a virgin anymore..just deal with it..not even trying to be rude.

it was a mistake..cant be reversed and we have no time machines..relax..but dont put too much pressure on yourself.I lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?Heya.honestly its not the right way to lose it.u shouldve waited till u married but oh well.honestly i think its kinda trashy but srry thats my opinion.
you can't change the past

just learn from your mistakesI lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?I think any guy who looked down on you for your choices isn't worth your time anyway. You made a mistake, but it was your mistake to make and nobody has the right to judge you for it.



You don't have to tell any guy anything about your sexual history past the fact that you aren't a virgin. If you want to sleep with someone, you should be able to. And honestly, I don't think most guys who are sexually active will care whether or not you're a virgin. In fact, I'm willing to bet most guys wouldn't want a virgin - generally when a girl loses her virginity it isn't any fun at all.



One piece of advice I DO have for you is to get yourself tested for STDS. Sex with strangers is not a terrible thing so long as you protect yourself by using condoms, so always remember to do that. It's a good idea for anyone who has had more than one partner to get tested annually just to ensure they are clean. I've been tested once even though I'm in a monogamous relationship, just for my own knowledge.



Good luck!I lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?
Well the fact that you are not a virgin is not that big of a deal to me. But knowing that you lost it in a one night stand would not fly with me. Because that whole "someone else in my body" thing would just tell me she can't control her lust , so whats to keep this girl from cheating on me one drunken night , when we are in a committed relationship. I just wouldn't trust it , but if I liked you enough I would give it a shot. Sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear but its the truth.



Edit: It does not matter to guys if you "emotionally" fell like a virgin lol what the hell does that mean? You are no longer a virgin , and I suggest you do not lie about this to the next guy you meet because then your new relationship will be based off a lie, and you cant ever get mad at him for lying to you.
I think everybody make mistakes and people won't think of you different because they lost there's already so they can't really talkI lost my virginity on a one night stand? What do you honestly think about all this?
If he's only interested in you because he thinks you're still a virgin, he's a trophy hunting douche, and you shouldn't date him.



Date someone who likes to spend time with you, and is attracted to you, not this fetishized status.





The one I love lost her virginity in kind of a similar situation. Guy wasn't anything special, it was just that she decided this was what she wanted to do, so she did it. I don't judge her for it. She knew what she was getting into, and it's her body and her business. (Of course, I'm much happier she's with me now.)



Sex can be meaningless and still not be horrible, or make you a horrible person or anything like that.



It doesn't mean that all the sex you'll have in the future will be insignificant, either. Some of it will involve love and intense feelings, even if this guy didn't.



Anyway, no matter how many times you've had sex, a lover, especially one you care about, can always show you something new and surprising.
Too long. But the first thing that popped into my head when I read your question's title was, reckless.