Is it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?

I was raised really conservative, having lost my virginity at 25. She had a one night stand at 18 where she lost hers. I am bothered by the whole thing too much, and now I see her as a slut, even though that it's in the past. I have stopped doing all the special little things to make her happy, and essentially have begun to take her for granted. I do enough to keep her with me. Before I was thinking of marrying her, but now I am not so sure. I feel like riding it out and see where it takes me. She's very pretty and smart, and I'm pretty sure that she wouldnt have paid any attention to me if she didnt have a damaged view of herself. So I dont want to break up with her right now, I put in too much time, money and effort already but again not sure what to do next.Is it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?Whatever, don't lose your investment, man. Do a little more than you need to to keep her around though, she might suspect.



Hey, it's your life. It also affects hers, but that's her problem.



Why do people say the past is in the past... The past defines us, tells us who we are, what we are, etc.Is it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?
dont look at the past when it comes to your relationships

people do things they regret and thats fine

if you love her stay with her and let the past be where it is

people change and obviously she wants to be with you or she wouldnt be with you so just let it go

forget about it and move on towards the future with herIs it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?thats unfair. the past is the past, shes probably different now. so what if she had a 1 night stand? she didnt lose virginity at 14 like some people do. make her happy and get over it!
Honestly, it sounds to me you're completely overreacting...

I'm a 18 yr old guy and realize that we're still young and make mistakes... she made a mistake and for you to stop likin'/lovin' her for that... sounds a little selfish? Unless you're perfect and have never made a mistake i would reevaluate your thoughts on this.Is it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?You put in time, money and effort? She's not a stock or bond, she's a person.

And like every person she makes mistakes. Forget about the past. True love does NOT judge others.Is it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?
You are reading way too much into this. Wow she had a one nighter. You fell for her for a reason, so her past shouldn't matter. If it bothers you that much talk it over with her, or then again if you are going to be that judge-mental about it then the best thing you can do for HER is leave.
You obviously do not have your priorities straight.



You first look at her not being a virgin and yet you are not one yourself. Such a hypocrite. Then you look at the fact hers was a one night stand. Hey, we all make mistakes. Some people might even think you losing yours before marriage was a mistake. Who are you to judge?



Now the second mistake is the fact you look at this relationship as 'money and time invested'? HUH? Are you from the 19th century? Are you sure you are even mature enough for a relationship?



Go on dump her. She is better off without you than with you.Is it fair to stop loving your girlfriend if you found out she had a one night stand?
I think you should cut her some slack. Everyone, and I mean, EVERYONE has a past. Sometimes, we do things we aren't proud of, or things we regret. If she told you about it, then just see it as a step for her being open and honest with you. Technically, she could've just never have told you. I understand that it's probably upsetting to you, but at the same time, it was the past. And, apparantly, she wants you as the future. Things do happen for a reason, and maybe that's the road she had to take to get where she's at.

I'd say sit down and have a talk with her about it. Sometimes, just talking things out makes a world of difference. Tell her that it hurt you/ bothered you, and go from there.



-Jen
c'mon man. give her a break. she was only 18. I am sure you might not have made a "sexual mistake" but I am sure there might have been so things in your life you wish you could "do over".



I must compliment her for telling you this. What if she hadn't told you? You know how many women who used to be promiscous and haven't told their present husbands. I think you are being "unforgiving". What if this is the woman who could make you happy and because of a mistake you let her go.



It would not be fair to keep her around and not love her 100%. If that's how you feel, why not let her go and find someone else who will love her despite of her faults?
nooo

when you fall inlove with a girl you must accept her for the right and wrong things she has dont and accept her past. its not like her past has and=y affect on your relationship whatso every so forget abt her one night stance and love her for who she is, not whats she hadnt done, if that makes anysence:P

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