About a month ago I made a HUGE mistake.
I got out of a long term relationship and I was heartbroken and confused. A week after the breakup I met this guy, Jason. 2 days after we met we hung out and went to his friends party. He was super sweet to me. I ended up drinking a bit at the party but the alcohol hit me harder than usual because i didn't realize i was drinking on an empty stomach. That night I ended up sleeping at his place and lost my virginity that i've been saving for THE one for 19 years. He didn't even know i was a virgin until he had trouble fitting it in. When I told him he stopped said "WOW, I NEVER knew that" and stopped and layed on my chest. He then a few minutes later said "that's so hot" and continued. After he found out i was a virgin he seemed VERY uncomfortable and not as sure as himself as before. When his thing would slip out he'd like try putting it back in but wouldn't even be close to the whole. He'd then have this like nervous laugh. He then stopped because he was "tired" and then took me in his arms intervined our legs and held onto me and cuddled. He then even seemed very uncomfortable after he got up being naked and all and having an erection.
After we had sex we watched movies until 5 in the morning cuddling with blankets. He was still super sweet. When we went to bed he also was still super sweet and very thoughtful asking me if i was cold, wanted another pillow etc.
The next morning he was even sweeter and took me out for breakfast. We then watched some more movies cuddled. He just seemed to want to impress me. Like just say id be like "i want to be a teacher, because i love kids" he'd be like "i love kids to, id be a good dad, i want 2 kids, im so good with kids".
When my mom picked me up the next day he even wanted to meet her and seemed nervous. He even asked for my my home # and called me 2 days later. We talked for like an hour but I said alot of things i regret. I told him my mom knew we slept together and she cried a bit and i almost did to. I also told him that i think 6 months is to early for sex and that i was always scared of loosing my virginity because i didnt want to be disrespected or used. I also told him that it was TOTALLY out of my character to do what i did with him. I also told him that "i cant believe i did something so stupid, well not stupid because that sounds harsh but like not myself"
He never called me back and when i seen him at our College i said "heyy" and he said "wussuppp" and i gave him a dirty look and looked away. The next time i saw him he just looked down and kept his head down and acted like he didnt see me and headed to his bus. Then when his back was to me i saw him from the corner of my eye peek over his shoulder and look at me.
What do you think of this?
Thanks!|||you should apologize to him. this is a good example of why you shouldn't drink. it's too bad you met him while you were drunk. he sounds really nice. think about how much better it could have been under different circumstances. oh well... you screwed up. i hope you didn't get pregnant.|||you had sex, congratulations
now you just need to mature a little
sex happens|||Don't worry this thing can...SLUT SLUT SLUT!|||I think its a life experience and it isnt that bad compared to other things... It happend. you can't go back now right? exaclty so try to make the best of what you have and what happend.|||You can not change history
Pick your self up dust your self down and get on with life and stop beating yourself up.
Put it down to a learning experience. Every one else does.|||One night stands are fun. Get over it.|||Cool, you seem like the one giving him dirty looks and saying you regret it.
So just leave it there, or go out with him, he seems like he really likes you.
xo|||i think that saying what you said to him hurt his feelings.
it sounded like he maybe could of been a virgin too and it also sounded like he wanted to be more than a one night stand ..
talk to him in person so he knows that you dont think he was a huge mistake. dont talk about 'that night' so much, try and talk about other things .. if your seriously into him though. if not then leave him alone ..
dont act like it was his fault, cause it wasnt .. you WERE there you know, and obviously you wernt drunk enough to not remember cause that was a pretty detailed story.|||easy this guy is for u thats why we he found out u were saving ur virginity he kinda stopped and didnt finish because he probably wanted ur real first time to be special that why he didnt try anything again this dude probably is one of those few good guys like me u should try and get him back please answer mine
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>|||I think you made two huge mistakes. 1) You gave away your most precious virginity while drunk and 2) you made him feel bad about something you allowed to happen when he initially felt honored (as he should have felt.) He will take you back though, if you want him back. If not, just be more sensible with your sex from now on.|||Mistakes happen on guys and girls parts. He seems like a nice guy and seems to at least have developed some feelings for you after having had sex with you. I'm sure waiting and not having a one night stand would have been better but stuff happens. I think your being very harsh towards him. He didn't do anything wrong. And if you like him why not continue to pursue a relationship with him? Sounds like a mistake happened and your taking it out on a guy who seems to care about you. Granted taking advantage of a girl while shes drunk isn't the best thing in the world, unless it was rape it was only half his fault.|||uhm .....
well you made a mistake, it happens, but hardly seems like the end of the world. don't drink so much, and use protection next time.
there's no big mystery as to why he's avoiding you. you gave him a dirty look; the nonverbal communication is that you want nothing to do with him, so he's just giving you what you nonverbally requested.
i'm not really sure what the issue is here. perhaps you can clarify your question?|||Nice horny ****.
Next time u sleep wid a guy tell him ur a virgin n ur hymen tore tryin to play basket ball..
he wud buy that
btw answering ur question
I think nuthin o it|||Well you were a bit cold towards him after everything he did for you. He tried to show you respect and make you feel comfortable. He just wanted to let you know that he wasn't like all the other guys in the world who seem to have sex with a woman and not call them or not even remember who they are. This guy could have been the ONE for you, but you totally blew him off. Now you're upset because he doesn't acknowledge you. If I were you I would be saying sorry to him. One: For not telling him you were a virgin before you allowed him to have sex with you. Two: For treating him like he was just some random guy you had sex with. And Three: For being nasty when he actually DID call you afterwards! This guy sounds amazing, and you're silly for what you did. If you have lost him, then the fault is naturally your own. Tell him you're sorry, and if he doesn't forgive you then the fault is still your own. Give males a chance, because there are some amazing ones out there.|||LoL guys are pigs ..."thats hot!" wtf?? I'm sorry hun.... but I think u guys should try being friends... it'lll be feel awkward if ur not and it will make u feel worse too.|||Don't be so hard on yourself. You've had sex and far from being a mistake it is just part of growing up. You are way too young for a serious relationship and you need time to let your emotions and judgement mature. When you know yourself better you will know exactly who you want and don't want. Stay away from the guys for a while and let your self grow.|||Dont listen 2 them
i know how u feel
how dare they just say move on or thats life
Im so sry i know how u feel something similar sorta happened 2 me!!
if u like u can email me
take care and hope the best 4 u|||i think you handled the situation poorly. sorry, but it's true. you kept putting down what happened. you made it seem that he had done something wrong. he showed interest in you and in your family, but you let him know that both you and your family were disapointed in him. of course he felt like an outsider and maybe even ashamed, so he ran away...
i know it must hurt your feelings, and i'm sorry, but you asked.|||Just hope he didn't have a disease and you don't get preggers that would be my first thought, especially for a virgin. Otherwise all you can do is move on and forget about him. If you are emotionally distraught for loosing your virginity because you had been saving it, well if you are religious say a prayer and forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes of all kinds, just hope for no after affects.|||Well, I think it should be printed in Penthouse Forum. Do they still have that?...But then again, it may be too sad. A lot of women have lost their virginity in just the same manner. It is just something you will have to live with and maybe one day use yourself as a power of example to your daughter (s) as to what can happen when you over indulge in alcohol and or drugs. Thank God that you did not get pregnant...There aren't many things worse in life than a child that doesn't know his/her father. I know, I looked for years for mine and was sorely disappointed when I found him. Learn from your so called "stupidity" and teach your children well.|||You're the only person that how you lost your virginity should matter too.
I think you were kind of rude to this Jason guy.....It sounded like he was really trying to be nice to you, respect you, and care about your feelings. It also sounded like he really liked you too.....It also sounds like you may have really hurt his feelings. You shouldn't have referred to your sexual experience the way you did. You probably offended him and possible made him feel like he wasn't good enough for you. If you had issues with what you did the only one you should be disappointed in is yourself. You want to feel bad about it you feel bad about it but, you shouldn't have made him feel bad about it. As far as I can tell he didn't do anything wrong. You should have let him know you were a virgin from the start. You also shouldn't put yourself in situations lke you were in if you don't want to do things like you did. Part of being an adult is acting like one and taking responsibility for your own actions.|||First off, you certainly shouldn't take anything he is doing now as something to do with you personally. They way he is acting is about himself. He has low self esteem and/or is ashamed of the course of action that he took with you (not ashamed that it was you).
I think you should just move on from this and acknowledge that you made a little mistake in the grand scheme of things. If you had a true goal to save yourself for THE ONE, then you can still do that. There is a difference between having sex (which is what a one night stand is) and making love. I would expect that you would want to "make love" with THE ONE. That's what you should be saving.
However, I think you should really be careful as to not let yourself have intercourse again until you find THE ONE, if that's what you've been waiting for. Sometimes when young women have traumatic sexual experiences (or just confusing), they can give up on their morals and become very promiscuous. I'm sure you wouldn't want to look back and see the path you took if that's what you ended up doing.
Just relax. You have nothing to worry about. So you had a little mishap. Remember your goals and stick to them. Please don't blame yourself for how that guy is behaving, it actually sounds like he's probably embarrassed, but confused about whether he should be or not.
He might be embarrassed because he couldnt get the job done... This was probably due to mental pressure he had because he had just learned that you were a virgin... He's probably feeling embarrassed (he couldnt do it), ashamed (he couldnt do it %26amp; he messed with your virginity, he let you down with your first time- even though the first time is never glamorous!) and confused (thinking... she doesnt know what it's like, so maybe I don't need to be embarrassed).|||I think he showed a lot of caring because he kinda felt bad about being your first one. But it look like you are putting too much stock into this one night thing. That is why they call it a one night stand because you do what you did and move one, no commitment and no strings attach, and you look like you are looking for some type of strings with this guy because you gave up something very special to him.
Ironically you gave it up to a stranger not to someone you been with for awhile, So I am sure you have a lot of emotion that you are not used to dealing with and feeling.
Talk to the people you are close to like your mom who it seems like you can talk to about things like that to and maybe close friends so you can think straight about this so you will not do something else you might regret later.
There are going to be time when you are lonely and depressed about your ex or maybe even this guy you might have just slept with but when you do feel these things seek out a good friend because if you end up at a party and you are feeling these things and then you get alchohol in your system and you start to feel good it will be easy to get into another sexual encounter. So if you do not want this to happen again or if you are not prepared for the outcome then don't drink when you are lonely and depressed.|||usually i dont read this much; but i read it all.. !
dont regret you told him that.because thats what you felt.dont ever regret your acts.it makes you inconfident, big mistake. you had sex with him, because you didnt know him that well and look what he is doing to you. but thats ok. thats just life, thats just going to make you grow,and be more mature, it hurts you know. but give time to time.and try to talk to him. just dont beg or seem needy just talk to him say hi.blah blah blah.to see whats on his mind.but to tell you the truth thats the same thing that happen to me when i was 18 same same thing. i use to cry,feel like shyt.and, regret. i got crazy i went to the hospital couple weeks later to see if i got hiv, or gotten pregnant herpes.or any STD's i was driving my self crazy. dont do that to your self i see your despret your askin for peoples opinions on yahoo.but let it be dont regret it. in the moment you had a good time. so. who cares. it was going to happen one day!. be safe take care of yourself and dont drink! so you dont mess up again.|||it really doesn't seem like you had sex he tried and tried but did he really get in and actually fu*k you? and afterwards he was really nice to you why did you get all freaked out when he was that nice to you?
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